I don't want to be a downer and I hope you won't take it this way but I wanted to take a minute to honor my brother-in-law. On April 28, 2009 (which was a Tuesday and why I'm thinking about this today) at 2:30 in the afternoon while sitting at my desk at work, I got the phone call that changed our family dynamic forever. It was my 33 year old baby sister crying and choking so hard I could barely understand her... I could hear sirens so I started screaming "What's wrong?! What's wrong?!" She choked out "Gary, hurt on the excavator, come to the hospital, please. I need you." With distance and traffic and school busses, it took me 30 minutes to get there. By the time I arrived, he was gone. Actually, he was probably gone at the house but when the paramedics got him untangled from the excavator and the tree his color came back and it seemed that he took a breath. So there was hope on that ambulance ride. Taken away once at the hospital.
I have no understanding of these things, I just have to believe that for whatever reason, it was meant to be this way.
Gary was a wonderful family man and provider. He was the sort of guy who planned and executed. When he graduated from high school he knew he wanted to be an airline pilot so all of his education went towards that goal. At the time of his death he was a pilot for UPS. His propensity for planning was the gift that keeps giving as he left my sister well taken care of financially. However, it sometimes got in his way as my long suffering sister dated him for 7 years while he put his life plan into action. Funny thing, about a month after they got married, he came home from work and found her waiting and said, "Why I ever waited so long to marry you, I'll never know - this is the best thing ever!" In all they had almost 14 years together but I'm most glad they had almost 7 years of marriage because their love gave us Jacob and Grace (here with my sister).
So today, even though the "official" anniversary is tomorrow, at 2:30 I will observe a moment of silence and prayer and remember Gary, thankful for who he was and what he gave to our family.