Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Tuesday Ten: Books, Food and Sex

1. My huge news from last week? I won a book giveaway over at the Miz’ place! Goodness how exciting is that what with all her commenters and such! Here’s a review of the book:

"If you’ve ever hiked up your boobs just to remind yourself how they used to look, secretly hoped the wino on the corner would whistle at you like he used to, or recently realized that they are now making elevator music out of your favorite ‘classic’ tunes, you will love this book. It’s pee-in-your-pants funny and it’s all too true!"– Jenny McCarthy, author of Belly Laughs and Baby Laughs

Um, yeah, all of the above.

2. The great no-cooking experiment ended on Sunday. I couldn’t take it any more as I found myself reaching for things like potato chips way too often. Here’s what I learned. If I don’t cook, Mr. Helen will just boil a pound of spaghetti every couple of days and eat that – even if there’s no sauce. He fills it with butter and grates some sort of cheese all over it. He also ate a half gallon of chocolate chip ice cream in 2 days. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I cook in self defense.

3. As we discussed that fact that I cannot eat spaghetti every single day – that I need fruit and vegetables, and as I reminded him (once again) that due to my thyroid, my metabolism sucks, he looked dumbfounded. Then he said, “Have you thought about working out harder?” Which is really interesting since I work out more often than he does. The biggest difference is in our daily lifestyle: I sit in an office all day and he is on his feet, in 40 degrees, moving all day.

4. I’m learning a lot about mindful eating, mainly that it means just that. I have to be careful to really BE mindful. When I am distracted by other things I easily fall into eating too much, or eating junk.

5. Having said that, (anyone see that episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm? Hilarious!) I got home last night to find Mr. Helen diligently preparing his homemade fried Chicken Tenders. They were delicious, but truthfully, I really, really wanted a salad. I should have had a salad. But I didn't because he prepared those things with TLC and honestly he doesn't spontaneously cook that often on his own and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Huh. A whole new dimension of mindful eating I have to work out.

6. I work with a (younger than me) woman who I find quite physically attractive. While I know I could never have her body shape, I find her overall look to be one I’d like to have. It’s sort of funny because she and I have the same ethnic background: English/Irish. Only she has that sort of steamy Dylan McDermott Irish thing going, while I’m more like Conan O’Brien.

7. I mention this woman because she also weighs in the neighborhood of where I know I should be. She fills in at our reception desk during lunch so I often see her eat. I have also seen her eat in social situations when some of us from work have gone out. I realized the other day that she eats just about half as much as I do. Huh.

8. My mental “ideal” weight has changed over the years. I used to want to stay between 120-125. Then it became 130-135. Then 135-140. Then 140-150. Right about now, I’d be thrilled to be under 160 but really happy if I could get to 150. Very ironic since I weighed 149 when they put me on the scale the day I went to deliver my daughter into this world. Sigh.

9. I am very much at a cross-roads about all of this because the mere thought of really tracking my food again makes me nuts. Yet, it would be a huge mental and emotional adjustment for me to begin to think this is the “size” I’m going to be be. Because I’m not truly happy at this size.

10. I was completely fascinated by this item I heard on the news last week:


Put it out there and tell me, sex or weight loss?


  1. Helen, it is only my second one, but I like this format on tuesdays! I am thinking about trying to do some sort of hook too. Thanks for the inspiration.

    I have surrendered myself, at least for the time being, to the idea that from this point forward, I will have to think about everything I eat. I like that I have made the changes I have due to my limited calorie bank. It seriously makes you start saying "that is not a good deal" when you see the amount of calories you will use from your bank to eat your favorite foods. I have every bit of faith in you that you will be fine with going back to mindful eating. You seem to be a smart strong and motivated young lady.

  2. Mr. Helen seems to simply be a typical male. Saying the first thing that pops into his head. I would be like you. I would be hurt. I would think about why I'm hurt. I would come up with valid reasons. When I do take the time to work it out with Mr. Survival I find that he is very apologetic, understanding and supportive.

    But it's not always worth it. Plus, I know you've been round and round the bush on this one with Mr. Helen. I hope you know for sure that you are doing so much to solve this problem. While I don't know if it's going to be fixed, I do know that you are awesome. I know that I respect you so much right here and now in your life.

    You ROCK.

    Oh, and I'd have to say sex. ;)

  3. #1 - I saw you had won and got a thrill that someone I knew won a giveaway - congrats!

    #2 - Totally how I used to cook pasta, only add salt and pepper. I like cooking in self-defense, very funny!

    #3 - At what point did you smack him? ;)

    #5 - Yeah, sometimes you have to be a polite eater or it'll be years before they cook again.

    #6 - Is the sex part of the post? ;)

    #9 - I started tracking my food again yesterday - just committing to a week, to get me back onto being a little more aware of what I'm sticking in my gullet (as POD would say!).

    #10 - Oh, there's the sex. For the summer? Flat stomach? Like teenage flat? Oh HELLS YEAH.

    Love your Tuesday Ten posts! I open a new window so I can comment as I read - thoroughly enjoy the interaction! Have a great day, my friend!

  4. Love Shelleys comment to your awesome blog. smile.

  5. I love your Tuesday Ten posts!!

    Um, for me, I'd rather have the sex and not worry about the weight! That's probably good (or bad on how you look at it) when I married my husband I was 137 pounds, and now am 171 (as of two weeks ago). He still thinks I am hot no matter what - how lucky am I?!

    Have a great day Helen!

  6. SEX! Besides, I know my husband would rather have sex with me 10 lb heavier versus not having sex...and me 10 lb lighter.

    Re #8: I have really come to the conclusion that when we're our ages, we're not supposed to have the bodies we had when we were 20 something. Or even 30 something. It's just the way it is. That said, when I was in my 30s, I weighed 230 lb.

    Re #9: I'll just say it straight out: happiness at this size will help you get to the size you think you want. I know that sounds counter-intuitive, but it's not. There's huge power in loving your body right now as it is.

    It doesn't have to be either/or, meaning "either" I count calories and drive myself nuts "or" I live with a body I hate.

  7. I also love the Tuesday 10. I actually thought about it this morning while driving to work. Does that mean I need to get a life, or are the Tuesday 10s that good? A little of both maybe?

    Regarding # 10 and the question...define sex :)
    I think some finagling could enable one to not have to give up one for the other?

  8. Your Tuesday Ten is a lot of fun!

    Why can't I have the skinny body and sex? Oh, wait I forgot I do!!!

  9. When I fry... chicken tenders, its on the George Foreman grill, not in a pan full of grease.... hope your's were off the grill!

  10. well 10 lbs would put me at a normal bmi...so 10 lbs. lololol.