Susan asked me to explain a bit more about creating the vision. And to answer your question Susan, the reason (according to our facilitator) that it's not JUST about calories in/out is because if it were, every single person who has dieted and done that perfectly would be where they wanted to be and they'd be done. But the fact is, most people struggle to even lose weight and most people (not all) gain not only their initial weight back (or some of it) but many gain even more than they lost in the first place. So in her opinion, it's not strictly calories in/out that get us to where we want to be.
Here's my attempt at explaining creation of a vision. The first thing you should understand is that the vision is unique to each individual.
Our first step in creating our vision was to explore what we don't want and make a list of those things - or maybe that one thing. These are examples of things that could be what someone doesn't want (not necessarily my exact list):
- I don't want my waist to be so thick
- I don't want to exercise 7 days a week
- I don't want to give up desserts
- I don't want to have a pot belly
- I want my waist to be thinner so I can easily button my slacks
- I want to exercise a few times a week to be healthy and strong
- I want to occasionally have the foods I like, including dessert
- I want to have a flatter stomach, not necessarily a six-pack, just a flatter stomach
I don't want to exercise 7 days a week because it is making me feel exhausted. I constantly have injuries and pain from all that exercise. I will stop using exercise as an excuse to eat more. I will stop exercising just because it seems like the "in" thing to do. I DO want to exercise to be healthy and move my body so I will figure out a plan that allows me to exercise for one hour 4 days per week. Some days I will do cardio and some days I will do some strength training.
The reason for doing this is that we all have our reality: we're sick, exhausted, overworked, on medications, overweight, etc., etc. It IS your truth. However, when you focus constantly on that reality, you are unable to really ever change anything. You live the reality you focus on. So the idea is to create a new reality by creating a new vision for yourself. In other words, change your story.
It's harder than you think to do, especially when you've had the same tape playing over and over in your head about your current state. But I've been finding out, it is possible to begin to build that new idea of what life could be like - and the one I'm envisioning looks pretty darn good.